Have you ever wondered why some people seem to set bigger goals and reach them faster than others who are aiming much lower?
Their secret is simple: Self-confidence. (Okay, that’s just one of their secrets!)
Here are five ways to increase your self-confidence fast:
- Start a “Self-Confidence Journal”
Start a list of everything you’ve achieved in your life. Include everything, big and small.
Record 1-5 things you achieve each day (or something in the past) that builds your confidence level as you think about them.
- Turn a deaf ear toward unsolicited advice or feedback
Does that seem a little harsh? If so, consider this:
Good feedback is priceless. The problem is that it’s rare.
Ninety-nine percent of all unsolicited advice is given to meet the needs of the one giving it, not yours.
If you listen to unsolicited feedback and your confidence takes a hit, you have two problems. The first is that you listened to feedback you didn’t ask for. The second is that your confidence suffered from it.
I know of many professional speakers who get great reviews from almost everyone in their audience, but they focus on the few who gave them a bad review. What sense does that make? You really can’t please everyone!
You and I are under no obligation to listen to someone who probably is dealing with limited information or who thinks they are an expert when they’re not.
The bottom line? If you tend to doubt yourself, be very, very careful about
- Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone
Few things will build your confidence faster than challenging yourself and finding what you’re really made of.
Start by challenging yourself in small ways and build up to bigger things. You’ll be amazed at how quickly your confidence will blossom.
Get an “accountability partner” who will help you to venture out of what is comfortable.
- Keep company with confident people
We become like those we spend the most time with. If you want to increase your income, spend time with those who make substantially more than you.
If you want to be more self-confident, spend time with those more confident than you.
- Stay away from negative, pessimistic doom-sayers
Negativity, pessimism and “Chicken Little” thinking will erode your confidence. Someone who is pessimistic and negative in general will generally be negative about themselves… and about you. Without you realizing it, you’ll be doubting yourself and undermining your own confidence.
Now you have four ways to get more confidence fast.
‘Start a confidence journal and write in it daily. List these four tips in the front of your journal. Then, make a habit of using it.
Record what you admire about yourself. List your strengths.
Document your achievements and your progress.
Before you know it, someone will be asking you, “Where did you get all that confidence?”
Categorized in: Mastering Emotions, Self-Esteem/Self-Worth
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