Are you an imposter? Okay, let me clarify—despite being smart, talented and accomplished, do you often feel as though you aren’t? Do you find yourself thinking, “I know I’m all that, but I don’t feel like I’m all that”? If you are nodding your head in agreement, you are not alone. In fact, you are […]
How do you deal with something in your life you don’t want? What really works when it comes to changing your life? Do you need to focus on the positive and pretend you aren’t upset? In my last post, I dealt with how to deal with change you don’t want, and the next four blog […]
To me, faith is a belief in something in the absence of proof. We often have evidence for something without having proof to nail it down. If we have proof for something, we don’t need faith. I’m not talking today about faith in a religious sense, but in a practical sense. Can we be happy […]
So far we have talked about two strands in the tapestry of happiness: • Self-Confidence • Vision Today we are going to look at the role of Self-Love in happiness; a topic that has created a lot of controversy, confusion and ironically, unhappiness! Think about these questions: • Should you love yourself? • How much […]
When it comes to happiness (and I’m using the word in a general sense) we have to think about self-confidence. Think about someone you know who is happy…aren’t they also confident? For instance, if someone is happy in their job, I bet they have confidence in their craft, whatever it is. And if they don’t […]
We’ve all heard the term “self-sabotage.” Therapists and coaches use it a lot when they’re talking about someones “self-defeating” behavior. Take procrastination for example. I know someone who finished all his college requirements except for one writing assignment. Ten years later and he still hasn’t finished his assignment. Let’s call this person “Bob.” How do […]
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to set bigger goals and reach them faster than others who are aiming much lower? Their secret is simple: Self-confidence. (Okay, that’s just one of their secrets!) Here are five ways to increase your self-confidence fast: Start a “Self-Confidence Journal” Start a list of everything you’ve achieved […]
I was talking to a client today, listening to a recent success she’s had. She was happy about it, really happy. And I was happy for her. She not only reached a significant goal, she exceeded it. Naturally, I asked her how she was going to celebrate her success. She had been thinking about that […]
I’m coaching a client, whom I’ll call Mark for now, who has been excelling as a manager for almost one year now. He’s really good at what he does, has a great personality, loves people and his direct reports respect him and like to be around him. You’d think he’d be walking on air with […]
About six years ago, my oldest daughter Dana graduated from Loyola University School of Nursing, took her boards and became an R.N. Her dream was to be a nurse in the pediatric intensive care unit at Children’s Memorial Hospital in Chicago. As she shared her dream with others, everyone told her that it doesn’t happen […]
