Career Success

You Love to Give–What About Receiving?

One of my favorite authors and  speakers is Randy Gage. His post today was about how good we are, not at giving, but at receiving. While others are writing this week about giving, Randy wrote about receiving–and rightfully so. We are more comfortable with giving than receiving, myself included. And before you say, “Not me, […]

Listening and Self-Delusion

I received a group email from a colleague the other day and I couldn’t stop laughing. The topic of the email was on communication and this is how he summed up his communications skills: “I love to hear myself talk. It’s nice to have others hear me sometimes, too.”   He was joking, but it got […]

Enlightened Leadership

A few weeks back I spent a couple of days with a senior leader who wanted to develop his “leadership intelligence.” He has produced outstanding results in many ways and he has superb “technical skills,”  but his people skills were suffering. As a result, his relationships were suffering as well. Great leaders produce great results in one or […]

“Shut Up and Listen”

Families and companies have a lot in common. After all, both families and companies are made up of people. That means there are plenty of opportunities for misunderstanding,  unresolved conflict and power plays. On the positive side, there are plenty of opportunities for connection, collaboration and the option of sharing power. When we aren’t connecting, collaborating and sharing the […]

Transforming Your Circumstances: Three Insights From Clients

Several of my clients have found new career opportunities in the past year after long periods of struggle. Others have reconnected with their spouses or life partners and others have rekindled long lost dreams. I thought I would share three lessons they learned along the way. We can create our own circumstances: We hear all […]

It’s Not Who You Know, It’s Who Knows YOU!

The Harvard Business Review Research Report recently featured an article on “The Sponsor Effect” and it reveals why many women are finding it hard to climb the corporate ladder. One key finding stated women underestimate the need and value of having a “sponsor” at work for obtaining promotions, key assignments and tapping into the “unwritten rules” […]

Change: What Gets In Our Way

Have you ever wondered why you don’t change more or change faster–when it comes to something you say you want? We are hard-wired to adapt, change and transform, so why doesn’t it happen more or happen faster. Have you wondered why your company seems to keep doing the same old things even though they just […]

Sex, Work, Your Heart and Warren Buffett

Sex. Work. Your heart No, this isn’t about sex in the workplace or about sex and your heart–sorry to disappoint you. This is about something Warren Buffett said: “Take a job that you love. I think you are out of your mind if you keep taking jobs that you don’t like because you think it […]

Question Everything

We have beliefs about everything, but not all of our beliefs are helpful or defensible: Beliefs about self (“I’m not a risk taker.”) Beliefs about others (“He’s an idiot!”) Beliefs about our future (I can’t get a better job in this economy.”) Beliefs about money (“Money doesn’t grow on trees.” Technically true, but what are […]

The Success Trap

Robert is the CEO of a multi-million dollar company. It’s not the biggest company around by far, but it’s not tiny either. He brought me in and said, “Our sales are down this year and I have to do something now.” I asked Robert, “How were sales last year.” He replied, “They were down last […]