Relationship Mastery

Three Ways Change Can Be Easier and Faster

What’s the number one thing we hear most about change? Here it is: “People hate change.” Yet, everywhere we turn people talk about how they want things to change. Sales leaders want more sales. Managers want their teams to pick up the pace and do better work. We want our significant relationships to grow instead […]


Elite Performers Aren’t Superhuman: Here’s What They Do

Most people see others who have achieved the “impossible” and wonder how they pulled it off. I have some insight into this from my former days as a psychotherapist and the past decade of being a coach in the corporate world and to private clients. I’ve been a therapist and now a coach to doctors, […]


Happiness Is A Damn Good Litmus Test

I define happiness as feeling positive about yourself and the progress you’re making in key areas of your life. Think about your work, your significant relationship, your goals, and even your big dream. These are all things that can and should contribute to our happiness and sense of well-being. But what is happiness, really? You’re […]


The Hardest Question in Life to Answer

  Years ago I had a friend who sold life insurance. He didn’t really like it and he only made enough money to pay his bills. I suggested he find another kind of sales job; one he was better suited for and one he enjoyed. He insisted he just needed to be more disciplined and focused—that, […]


Happiness

Happiness—it’s such a broad topic and one we tend to make more difficult than necessary. At work and in life, your level of happiness couldn’t be more important. I was recently a guest on The Energy of Success Podcast, hosted by author, speaker, and trainer Marc Schwartz. Marc is an excellent interviewer and the topic […]


Why “Just Do It” Is Great For Nike But Not For You

When it comes to “motivating” others (and ourselves) there are three well-known phrases I see and hear a lot: “Just Do It!” “No excuses!” “No one owes you anything!” As a former psychotherapist and now as a coach for the past decade, I have spent thousands of hours with individuals and couples and also with […]


The Courage to Be Unhappy For a Time

Sometimes the reason we’re not happier is because we don’t want to be unahppy for a tiime while we deal with things we want to avoid. It takes courage to be unhappy for a time but it’s the work we can do to create more happiness and fullfillment in life and at work.


Denial in the Workplace

Over the course of  the past two weeks, I’ve had discussions with three senior managers about various challenges their organizations are dealing with. Or to be more precise, challenges the senior leaders are not dealing with. For instance: A middle manager with a history of claiming credit he’s not due—while denying credit to those who […]


The Magic of Looking Inside Yourself

When things aren’t going so well, it’s easy to think the problem is “out there.” I know because I’ve been there. In fact, in 2008 I was in a dark place for almost a year and I was looking for the problem and for solutions everywhere but inside me. If something isn’t going right for […]


Stand By Me: What Your Employees Really Need

One of my all time favorite songs is “Stand By Me.” Whether it’s the original version by Ben E. King or Bono and Springsteen or others, the heartfelt plea of the song never fails to get to me. Here’s another one: “Lean On Me” by Bill Withers. Truer words were never put to music: Sometimes […]